As humans we tend to take things for granted, allowing ourselves to reminisce in self pity and not live in the moment. Individually, humans recognize that gratitude and presence are essential for escaping the negativity that surrounds modern society. Unfortunately, appreciation for what we have often comes only after it is lost. From any aspect of life, loss can be something that makes humans question the ways of the world. Death in any form is something that can truly make someone feel as if a part of their heart has disappeared. Although each version of grief or loss can be interpreted in many ways, when humans lose something deep to their hearts, regretting the times taken for granted, memory becomes both a comfort and pain, replaying moments that once required no effort to cherish, now heavy with longing and irreversible silence.
Harley Forster (26) said, “It’s hard to live everyday when you’re missing pieces of you that you didn’t know you could lose. Everyday I miss the things I used to be annoyed with but I cherish the memories like they were yesterday.”
As humans we often result in anger and complaints with certain situations in our world. Taking for granted that you only have so much time with the people surrounding your life. Annoyance by the little things make us take time away from the individuals we love and in the end cause us extra pain when their time on this earth is taken away.
One of the hardest parts about life is as humans we don’t know when traumatic things are going to happen. The best day of someone’s life could be occurring and suddenly the course of that day can change immediately. Receiving devastating news that an individual saw coming is hard but, news that was unexpected is something even harder to come to terms with as a human.
Louden Kindsfater (26) said, “My grandpa passed away unexpectedly last February. I did spend a lot of time in the hospital with him, and although I really enjoyed that time that I got to spend with him in his last weeks, I wish I would’ve spent more time with him when he was still healthy. Some things that you just don’t realize when things are good. Don’t ever take time with loved ones for granted.”
Unexpected events are something that can really take a toll on someone. In this life at any moment human lives can be turned upside down and leave them speechless. Rethinking their daily life, everyday moments, and the things that are ordinary on a daily basis. As a society one of the things we fail to recognize is how temporary the moments in life are, tending to assume that tomorrow is guaranteed, until an unexpected moment proves otherwise. Thinking tomorrow will be the day for giving love to our loved ones and just taking in the moments granted to us in our time on this earth.
Austyn Trujillo (26) said, “Grief often turns our past actions into regret reminding us how deeply we wished we had chosen differently.”
Regret is a factor of life that emerges from the idea of forcing us to confront our choices, and the opportunities we once assumed would always be there. In life there are many blessings that come along in a lifetime but naturally the unfortunate circumstances of life come along just enough to make humans aware of the pain life has us endure. Regret is something that will always come along in life no matter how well life is going. The moment the unimaginable happens an individual will think about every possible thing they could’ve done better. The truth of the matter is regret is going to set in with the grieving process but rather than focusing on that, turn to the memories of the past. Regret will tear a person to shreds, so when loss arises overcome the pain by reminiscing on the memories rather than drowning in regret.
